Wait Ange, you're reading a dating book? Isn't that a way off? Or very much over?
Errr...yes. Dating for my girls is a way off, and no, dating for me is not over -- although the unsteady kind thankfully is /wiping brow. Now I only date someone I love, we are always honest about what we want to do, and there is never any discomfort when it comes to deciding who pays. Plus, I don't have to flick his ear if he makes a play afterwards. It is an excellent arrangement, marriage.
I was recommended this book by a friend I admire, and she kindly lent me a copy (although I will purchase my own). I don't think it is too soon for me to think about, at all! I want to know how I am going to answer questions about intimacy with my children, from the start, and I knew that this book had helped my friend come up with a model for guiding progression through the stages of intimacy. I am also conscious of the fact that communities and media are not going to wait to transmit messages about intimacy to my kids -- these are going to be embedded in all they consume long before they reach dating age, and I want to better equip them to interpret those messages.
So. How did it stack up? Well, with one giant disclaimer: I think this book only reads well for a conservative, LDS audience. It's peppered with Mormon terms and church culture references, and although much of the research is neutral, many big hitter quotations are from church authorities -- carving this book a tight and small niche audience. I name the conservative contingent, because even within LDS circles who understand all of the church content, I am sure some will find Chapter 12 waves the stereotype wand too freely -- I know I did.
Otherwise: I think the book is an excellent starting point for discussion in homes, and I think teenagers, parents and leaders alike would benefit from opening a dialogue with this as a catalyst.
- I loved the allusions;
- Was impressed with her current language and examples (even these also often lean towards the extreme);
- Enjoyed the frankness without it becoming vulgar; and
- Found the format very easy to process.